#3 – Defensiveness I think we are all pretty familiar with this one. It is very easy to get defensive when we feel criticized and I believe there are situations where defending ourselves is the right call. The problem is defensiveness usually shuts down conversation…
As a review, I’m going over what The Gottman Method calls the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These are characteristics that unhealthy couples exhibit which strongly correlates with an increased likelihood of the relationship ending in divorce. #2 – Contempt When I think of contempt,…
I’ve recently gotten a lot of calls from people looking for couple therapy, so I thought I’d offer some thoughts on the subject. In my experience, what often causes conflict in the couple relationships is individual struggles/stories/baggage, however you want to define it. I no…